I don’t know if I can write this theme correctly because I’ve never been in relationship before. I can’t tell that being single means happier than in relationship or otherwise. But… If being single means I’m happy all the time rather in relationship, I said it totally b*llsh*t! (excuse my language)
To me, being single means I can explore everything by myself. I don’t have to asking permission to anyone to do anything I want (I still do it to my parents, it’s my role to do that). You know… I love watching movie at cinema alone. Others may say it’s sad and lonely. But it’s okay to me. What’s the point of having someone by your side during a movie when you enjoying everything alone? I know, it’s nice to have company when watched something (I sometimes go to cinema with my bestfriend or my sisters) but still, going alone sometimes feels more rewarding.
Also I think being single means I can learn so much about myself. You know there’s saying “you need to learn to love yourself first before learning to love others”. I still feel there a lot of things that I don’t understand about myself and if I involve with anyone, I might facing so much stress to understand everything. It’s not that I don’t want to understand anyone, I just think that I might not be ready for that.
BUT…
I need to add this. Being single doesn’t mean happy all the time. There was a time when I need someone beside me. Listen to my concern, help me ease all the hard time or just… exist (this might sounds funny, but sometimes someone existance can make you happy). I’m aware that being in a relationship allows you to share the weight of the problem with other and having double happiness you feel. And since we live in a world dominate with people who has great tendency toward extroversion, being single is a disadvantage. Yes, it’s society that make someone feel bad for being single, not themselves.
I’m totally agree with this quote. We need to stop looking at status as the indicator of someone degree of happiness. Relationship status doesn’t decide whether someone lives their life happily or not. It’s lie on their mindset. I have some mutuals that turns this mindset upside-down. Them in relationship means disaster and some of my mutuals that single already live their life to the fullest.
So… If next time someone ask to me “Single and happy?” I will answer
Depends
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